Welcome back guys! So for those of you swimming in the dating pool, this video may be of interest. With the help of author Gary Thomas, we dive deep into the purpose of marriage and discuss the importance of patiently searching for a quality mate when choosing Mr./Mrs. Right. I couldn’t think of a better person to discuss this with other than my friend Michelle who has so much insight on this topic. It took me a while to edit and i’m still pretty behind on all the tech stuff. Im also sorry that the audio is still so low, ill have to work on that for next time. Regardless, I hope you enjoy the video!!
So Excited for this one, although i’m only noticing now after uploading it online that its filled with spelling mistakes, please forgive me for this. I upload these things at 230am so i forget some of the finer details but Im evolving and improving as we move along!
This video post is on Triwisdom & The Law of Attraction! I hope you like it! ❤
It’s been a minute since I last posted on my blog site! Thank you to those of you who reminded me, have kept me accountable, and encouraged me to come back to my writing.
I’ve been fairly busy with the demands of clinicals during this semester. I am currently in my maternity rotation at the Grey Nuns Community Hospital dealing with newborn babies, their mothers and their families. Maternity is an absolutely exciting environment of which I see myself working in once I graduate and become a nurse. Now that’s enough about school (by this time in the semester I’ve had too much of it anyways), lets get right into today’s blog topic!
A few days ago during the weekend I was looking at my various social media feeds and I started feeling major FOMO having to miss out on all the hangs I wasn’t able to make. At this time I was focusing my attention on the feelings of missing out as opposed to the tasks at home that needed to be completed. I had to let some people down on planned outings so that I wouldn’t fall behind on house, school and writing commitments. Realizing how affected I was with it all, Mom decided to come sit down and talk about my mood and see where she could support me. She spoke of the importance of developing a core and valuing my personal time with myself. It all sounded important but of course in the mood I was in, I didn’t care much for it. What does that even mean “building a core?” Typing the statement into google only produced multiple workout videos of people doing sit ups and extended versions of the plank.
I let my mom continue her explanation where she used herself as an example. She very rarely feels FOMO because she practically never focuses on the feelings of being excluded, rejected or not belonging. She mentioned that from a young age she had developed a strong core, knowing who she was, where she was going and prioritized her life accordingly, with discipline. On the other hand, I was described to resemble a noodle, meaning I was the kind of person that dropped all responsibilities when the opportunity to hang with others came up. Mom called this noodle phase “not having a strong core.” Now she surely wasn’t trying to say that I could never meet up with other people. Mom was just reaching the root of the problem which was to avoid having my happiness controlled by whether or not people are present in my life… Sorry hold on… I just felt something in the spirit. Let me say it this way now, do not feel that your identity and worth has to be formed only by being in the presence of others…I know some of you guys ain’t ready for this one right here. You can go on back to YouTube and finish your funny cat videos. (I know they’re equally as important).
So how do you build a strong core? A core is first being able to look inside and recognize your worth and abilities. It means loving yourself wherever you are in your life, both the good and the bad, regrets, failures, achievements and successes. Moving forward from past mistakes and holding on to the future with high expectations of yourself. A core is like being able to stand your ground on your values and beliefs, especially of yourself whilst not being easily moved. Someone with a strong core is able to maturely handle changes because their emotions and behaviors are not determined by outside circumstances. They are able to withstand the grief of a break up and/or loss because they have anchored themselves in something of value. People who anchor themselves on how other people view them, think of them or affirm their actions can never ever be happy. I have learned that happiness comes from someone who feels complete in themselves without regard to circumstances or the influences of others.
The following are 3 tactics which could serve as helpful to you in the development of a strong core.
Writing empowering questions
Empowering questions help to shift your focus from negative thinking to positive thinking. It empowers you to take control of your emotional state and encourage more positive thought processes.
Write down a negative thought/question that you tend to frequently have:
Example: I’m always feeling down in the relationships I try to form. They are always fake. Am I just someone that has a hard time making true friends?
Empowering question to combat negative one might look like:
How do I make sure that I no longer feel down or fake in my relationships? How do I ensure that I attract real substantial and positive people into my life?
This way of thinking as opposed to the one above helps you to take more control of your situation. It suggests that the problem isn’t on you to be blamed, instead it launches you into looking for solutions to your problem. Some ways to act on this empowering questions depends on what works best for you. For example…
Seek the kingdom of God and all else will be added unto you
Begin to look for ways to enhance self-love and respect, then equal people will naturally come to you
Be focused on a goal and the right people (complimentary) will come to you
Stop building your self-worth on how people respond to you
Social media can create very negative habits of comparing yourself to another person who is probably in a very different situation than yourself. And who’s to say that they dont have their own struggles to deal with in life too. Regardless, some people try to completely annihilate their social medias. Instead of jumping into a complete elimination social media (which hardly ever lasts long) try to follow pages that are uplifting and encouraging. You can follow some art pages if you like art or technology, medicine, dogs and other animals etc. I’ve noticed that some meme pages are more uplifting than others. Some memes are masked to appear funny but create low self-esteem. Tell me, which type of photo is innocent and which type when consistently seen might create lower self-esteem in you?
Captain and Crew: 5 essential questions to ask yourself
This is the MOST POWERFUL PRACTICE you can do and hold onto in regards to identifying your purpose in life and focus on meaningful things other than multiple other things. My best friend (in my head) and mentor, Myles Munroe, suggested the idea of answering these 5 essential questions of life. They are…
Who Am I? Question of Identity
Why Am I Here? Question of purpose
What Can I do? question of potential
Where Am I Going? Question of destiny
Where Am I From? Question of creation (not heritage)
Because he is the master of this, I will let him explain further. Click the link right here, you won’t regret!
Ultimately you must take control of your negative thoughts and shape them into opportunities to create positive changes in your own life. To build on yourself and make a better you. You may not be able to control your circumstances but you can control how you react to them. You can either be bitter or better from your experiences.
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Lets step back for a second here. I know I’m talking about vision in this post but I cant help but connect vision to its foundation which has to be faith! The quote that comes to mind when I think this is Hebrews 11:1 which states “Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see.” The examples of people who had faith and ultimately a vision to change their circumstances and improve their surroundings are many! I’m talking about people like Oprah Winfrey, the queen of talk show hosts and daytime TV (I am such a big fan of hers btw). She was told at a younger age to step down from TV because she was considered unfit. Or Michael Jordan who was cut from his high school basketball team and now is recognized as a well renowned basketball mogul. Or even Thomas Edison back in the day who worked countless hours, experienced many failures but never stopped until he had created the light bulb which is now conventionally used in homes around the world. All these people were like you and I but they also had vision. A vision so true to them that very few things could stop them.
An example of vision that I have personally witnessed is in my own Mother who was given a hard life raising myself and my 3 brothers, one of which was diagnosed with autism at a young age. She separated from my dad and had to live in a foreign country with no relatives and minimal support. She knew she had to take herself to school in order to get a decent paying job and place food on the table for herself and the family. My Mother saw herself completing the RN (registered nurse) program before she even applied and although it was going to be very, very difficult, she was determined to make it into a reality. She would often tell me, as she reminisced on her life’s journey that “I don’t know what took over me, no one could stop me and neither could I. The only person I think could have stopped me was God. All I know is that I had already seen myself as a nurse, so all I had left to do was draw it into the physical and make it happen.”
My mother balanced raising the kids and sending us all to school, braiding hair occasionally for money, cooking, cleaning, studying, going to school, cleaning homes, working as a personal assistant, and growing in her faith in God among many other things. She finished her degree in 22 months (after degree program) and payed off her student loans whilst being an international student within 6 months of completing her degree! Now she is an instructor, motivator and author! This is why I describe my mother as invincible. My mother has shown me and many others the importance of having a vision in your life which led her to success.
“Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” ~ Carl Jung
1) Having a clear vision points you in the direction you want to go and drives you towards that goal. If you have no where you are going, any path will take you there. Vision narrows down your focus to what is most important meaning you must disregard other things which are not as important. This includes failures from time to time and may require getting rid of some people in your life. You ultimately must not lose focus. Focusing on the goal and implementing the right habits to achieve it reaps the results you want and makes you successful.
2) Vision helps you to become a leader in your own life and function as an example of discipline and perseverancefor other people. Having a vision and a why for that vision is very inspirational to those who are without one. They see the sacrifices you make to achieve your goals and they in turn could end up creating their own visions for themselves. This is a form of legacy on your part. In other people’s lives you have become a leader and this is your success. (My mother was this person for me). Ps. if another person does not share your vision or have a vision of their own do not become frustrated and allow that to derail you from your focus. That is out of your control. Have faith that God will make everything perfect in its own time (Ecclesiastes 3:11).
3) Vision gives meaning and purpose in your life. I have not checked the statistics on this but I believe that those who have a vision probably deal with depression less because their time is being used in a proactive and directed way. People with a vision do not worry about the future and mellow on the past, instead they ask themselves “what I can do today to continue moving forward and continue to create the results I want to see in myself and my loved ones.” When you have a clear strong vision to become a top fashion designer, you can actually make it happen with continued faith, discipline and making decisions that favor that dream. The same goes to your walk with Christ; if your vision is to grow spiritually and make an impact, you will develop the discipline and practices to achieve that too.
Thank you so much for reading this week’s blog. I’ve been wanting to write on this topic for eons it feels (mostly thinking about writing it as I poorly sang to myself in the shower). This blog was probably the easiest for me to get out because of how natural it felt to type it, exactly how I was thinking it in my mind is how you read it. It only took just over an hour to complete and I’m proud of it. This unfortunately will be my last blog in a while because I will be steaming full force back to school for clinicals and I really would love to focus fully on my assignments and learning. Thank you for stopping by here again and I promise I’ll be back to write some more. Leave some suggestions in the comments down below on what my future topics should be on. Also give a like and subscribe to my blog for updates. I love you and stay cool ❤
I know… being broke SUCKS! It’s a real bummer knowing that you’re in a spot of having to live paycheck to paycheck and maybe even struggling to avoid living with more month left over than money. Its a pretty crappy feeling but it’s definitely not the end all be all of your finances. Being broke doesn’t have to be a lifestyle. In order to change your lifestyle you must first tackle your bad habits and limiting thought processes. Being broke is not an obstacle, rather, its an advantage.
Today I am going to write on the topic of being broke and how this state can propel you into a fruitful, financially successful position if you do the right things now.
Here’s a good analogy of mindsets being changed because of the pain of being broke. It’s the story of a couple who owned a cow and nothing else. They had this cow in their poverty so they relied heavily on its production of milk for meals, transporting goods and themselves on its back because there wasn’t money for other forms of transportation and working the small land they owned. The cow, in essence, had become almost like a god to the couple because it provided most of what they needed. A wise man was passing by with his disciple and saw the couple straining day after day with their cow, trying to survive with whatever the cow could help sustain them with. The wise man said to his disciple one evening that he should snatch the cow during the night and push it off a cliff. The disciple of course was appalled by the idea because it was a hurtful thing to do to the couple. The wise man insisted and the disciple followed through with the command. The following day as the couple was preparing to gather milk, to their horror they saw the empty shed where the cow had been placed the night before. Only the wise man and his disciple knew the reason for the cows disappearance, but they had already left for the next village by morn.
A few years later the wise man decided to travel back towards the village of the couples home. To his amazement he saw that their small little land had expanded to a size unrecognizable than before. He saw a modern touch and growth to their home. There was no sign of struggle for the couple anymore, for they now had riches and were very well off.
My question to you is this: Is your mindset or job or anything in your life serving as a safety haven for you? Could you be doing something more that requires you to be a little bit uncomfortable? Are you willing to let go of the cow in your life?
You know that old saying “necessity is the mother of invention?” When you don’t have anything, it forces you to use whatever you’ve got, leading you to use resources in new, creative ways that others may not know.
This is the message being portrayed in the story. When you lose what you have whether its a cow or a job or a spouse you have been relying on or whatever the case, it forces you to think outside the box. It may not bring riches immediately but it does help you become flexible, more knowledgeable and able to fend for yourself in harder situations. It puts you on the road of discipline and independence which, if you will, could lead you to start learning new ways of generating income. THIS is the power of being broke.
Some things to keep in mind that can deeply help you in your financial situation include…
Educate yourself – I’m not saying enroll yourself in university courses, what I mean is books. Learn what other successful people, who are where you want to be, have done. All it takes is a willingness to do this. There is a library of knowledge available to you for free! Now that I think about it, you’re very blessed because of this opportunity ❤
Why – Why do you want to leave behind your broke lifestyle? If you dont have a why then you will lose your motivation to move forward. Get in touch with the emotions that drive your incentive for making money. Emotions cause us to take action so fire yourself up on getting rich and financially stable. Get inspired, excited, see the limitless opportunities and get yourself out from being broke.
Delayed gratification – This is where real discipline comes in. Delay purchasing expensive or impulsive things now that are not taking you in the direction you want to go. once in a while treats, when budgeted for, are ok but living your life and spending money now without discipline or regards to your future will lead you to financial mishaps, debt and regrets. Trust me you will not live at the quality of life you would like for your family and self so develop a plan with discipline today. Like right now if possible!
There is so much more that I would like to talk about regarding this topic but I will stop here for today. Thank you for reading this weeks blog post. Comment your thoughts below and like the blog if this was helpful to you. Also check out my book trailer linked here. Website and FB page linked as well. Finally subscribe to my blog to stay up to date on new posts and more topics I hope to cover later on.